We all deal with a lot of negativity every day of our lives. Sometimes it can become too hard to handle and could wash over our entire energy. We all have friends, colleagues and family who complain about everything from work, money, health and anything else they can think of. Even if you speak with them for fifteen minutes, you will feel drained and then it might take hours for that effect to wear off. Nobody is going to be the last negative person you come across, you will have to deal with them on a regular basis and you need to look for ways to find value even in those people.
Negative people rarely focus on the solutions and continue exaggerating their problems. They want others to join in their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves. If you are pressurized to listen to them and cannot say no because you do not want to sound rude, there is a thin line between being compassionate and getting sucked into their negativity. You can easily avoid the drama by setting limits and distancing yourself when you think it is necessary.
If you think that it is impossible to distance yourself from them, you can set limits and ask them how do they plan to fix their current situation. This will redirect the conversation or calm them down.
Do not react, respond
Do not give a hot, thoughtless reaction to them. It could be driven by your ego and not from your logical mind. You need to offer a perspective to them and even if you feel angry, you need to respond mindfully. It will make you feel like you handled the situation with grace and poise. If someone is talking negatively, do not respond by joining them or insulting them, keep your dignity and offer a well thought out answer to them. You can also choose to simply ignore them and walk away.
Introduce lighter topics of discussion
If you want to learn how to block negative energy from others, you need to start talking about lighter topics. If the person you are talking to is constantly bringing your energy down with negative talk, you need to address the situation practically and lighten the mood. Talk about mutual friends or funny memories to change the topic. You can choose any topic that the person will feel positive about.
Look for solutions and not problems
Whatever you focus on, will determine your emotional state. When you constantly focus on the problems you face, you will create negative emotions and cause stress to your own self. Instead, if you shift your focus towards positive events and actions, you will create a positive emotion and reduce stress. When dealing with negative people, you need to forget how stressful they are and look for a solution to their problems. Stop thinking about their problems and focus on how you can help resolve them. This will put you in the driver’s seat and will reduce your stress.
Detach yourself from what people think about you
You need to maintain emotional detachment in order to keep stress at a distance. You need to ensure that negative people do not put weight of their troubles on your back. It all comes down to how you look at yourself and believe in yourself. If you know how to handle stress and concentrate on your well being, you will be able to manage your life effectively. Negative people have a habit of blaming others and this can have an impact on your mind.
You need to value yourself and spend time on self care. You need to know your worth before others can blame you for anything. Emotionally strong individuals feel good about themselves and they do not let the opinion of others have an impact on their mind.
You cannot literally run away from people who are talking negatively or who give out negative energy. Rather, you can take steps to block that energy from moving into your mind and body and this can be done by feeling positive about your life and yourself. Do not let the opinion of others matter to you. Always know your self worth and know where to draw the line. Even if they are your closest friends, if their behavior is causing you stress, you need to maintain distance from them in whatever manner possible. Always place yourself above everyone else.
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